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奥特莱斯里的这个游乐园，我觉得最有特色的应该算是这个滑滑梯了吧，爬上去的时候还不觉得很陡峭，坐在上面往下看的时候，觉得异常吓人，像是飞流直下的瀑布，每次来，只要我女儿让我滑下去，我都吓得哇哇叫，但为了展示勇敢和无所畏惧，每次我都会壮着胆子往下冲。虽然如此，女儿却并没有因此而更加勇敢一点，好几次都“忽悠”我滑下去之后，自己还坐在滑梯的准备区，根本就不滑。我也没办法责备她，也没办法把她推下去，只能任由着她自己决定是滑还是不滑了。
有好几次，她都从滑梯上滑下去了，但是滑下去之后，就不想再来一次了，虽然旁边其他的小孩子已经欢快的滑过了几轮了，但是这种状况却并不是她的情况，如果一个小孩子说自己害怕，还抱着父母不肯放手，那估计是真的害怕，只能再多抱持一会，去玩一下其他的不让她害怕的项目，毕竟自己滑下去的时候也感觉到害怕。这个游乐园的卡，100元人民币5次，我大概办过3次以上了，有一次还剩几次没用，但是卡却放不见了，最后只能作罢，这次去奥特莱斯吃饭，又办了个卡，没事过来玩玩。
没想到昨天下午过去玩，女儿从滑梯上滑下去两次后，竟然主动说自己还要再滑几次。对我而言，当然是没问题了，做好我的辅助工作就行，然后笑着跟女儿说她“开窍了”。从最开始哭着说自己害怕到现在终于发现有趣，还要再滑几次，这个过程虽然有些漫长，但是却值得期待。当然这也是我发现的女儿的一个小规律，每次接触个新事物的时候，如果她不能一下子做好，就会哭，然后我陪着她一点一点做之后，她就能掌握了，比如骑自行车，比如跳绳，现在跳绳也可以跳50多个了，算是不小的进步了。
有时候等待花开，等待结果，需要极大的耐心，在这个过程中，种花家的最好行为应该是精心的照料吧，有可能最终也不会开出绚烂的花，不会结出硕大的果，有可能会失望，有可能会努力白费，有可能会觉得不值得，但是为了问心无愧，为了对得起光阴，为了不负这一路的风雨兼程，为了最终她的成长，她的觉醒，这一切也就值了。这大概也是做父母该尽的职责吧，有时候我也很羡慕她，还可以退缩，还有温暖的怀抱，还有很长的路要走，所以自己也得不断的调整，赶上她的步伐。
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The amusement park in the outlet mall has this slide, which I think is the most distinctive feature. When climbing up, it doesn’t seem that steep, but when you sit on top and look down, it feels incredibly scary, almost like a waterfall pouring straight down. Every time we come, whenever my daughter asks me to slide down, I’m terrified and scream, but to show that I’m brave and fearless, I always force myself to slide down. Despite this, my daughter doesn’t seem to get any braver. Many times, after convincing me to slide down, she would stay in the slide preparation area and not go down herself. I can’t really scold her or push her down, so I just let her decide whether or not she wants to slide.
There have been several times when she slid down the slide but then didn’t want to go again. Even though other kids nearby were happily going down the slide again and again, she didn’t feel the same. If a child says they’re scared and clings to their parents, refusing to let go, they’re probably genuinely scared. In that case, I would hold them a little longer and let them play on something else that doesn’t scare them. After all, I also felt scared when I slid down. The amusement park card costs 100 RMB for 5 hours, and I’ve probably bought more than 3 cards. One time, I had a few rides left but couldn’t find the card, so I had to give up. This time, when we went to the outlet mall for a meal, I bought another card, just to have some fun.
I didn’t expect that yesterday afternoon, after my daughter slid down the slide twice, she actually said she wanted to slide a few more times. For me, of course, that was no problem. I just had to assist her, and I smiled and told her, “You’ve figured it out!” From crying and saying she was scared to now realizing it was fun and wanting to go again, this process, though a bit long, was worth the wait. Of course, this also showed me a little pattern in my daughter. Every time she encounters something new, if she can’t do it right away, she cries. But after I accompany her and help her little by little, she eventually masters it. For example, when learning to ride a bike or skip rope—now she can skip rope more than 50 times, which is quite an improvement.
Sometimes, waiting for a flower to bloom, waiting for the result, requires a great deal of patience. During this process, the best thing a gardener can do is to take care of the plant carefully. Sometimes, it might not bloom into a beautiful flower, or bear big fruit. You might be disappointed, you might feel like your efforts were in vain, or you might feel it wasn’t worth it. But, for the sake of a clear conscience, for the sake of not letting time go to waste, for the sake of enduring all the ups and downs along the way, and ultimately for her growth and awakening, it’s all worth it. This is probably the duty of being a parent. Sometimes, I envy her—she can still retreat, she has a warm embrace, and she still has a long road ahead of her. So, I have to constantly adjust myself to keep up with her pace.
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